different for me again, I go to visit my Master - at intervals, a month, six weeks or so.
I know I'm going there to be whipped and tortured, so it's not a surprise,
yet it's always exciting - preparing myself, physically, mentally,
making my 'pilgrimage' down the motorway, through the hills -
and always different!
Thank you Messaline. There are some women here whose advice I value based on what I have seen them post in the forums. Obviously you are one of them. I do hear you about Quality being better than Quantity and I do agree 100 percent about that. My boyfriend and I are still learning a whole bunch of new things about the lifestyle too. I like your idea about surprises too. We are going to have to work on that for sure.You're right and wise, Debbie ! I dont think that to multiply the crucifixions would be a good thing ; in my opinion, and for me, I have discovered that QUALITY will always be better than QUANTITY ! What I research in crucifixion, is a total coalescense with my partner and it's not in having many of ones that I could find that ...
I aperceived myself that weekly was not satisfying : at the end, it 's looking like a rite ; I rather prefer to have aleatory whippings : I like the surprises !
...but each of us have our tastes ....
The concept of having a Master is still a new one for me. Perhaps, one day, my boyfriend will become a true Master, perhaps not, time will tell about that. Unfortunately, I am beginning to see that I want and need more than I think he does. That may not be a good sign at all. If it turns out that he isn't the one, things become a lot more difficult. Again time will tell. Thanks so much for your input.different for me again, I go to visit my Master - at intervals, a month, six weeks or so.
I know I'm going there to be whipped and tortured, so it's not a surprise,
yet it's always exciting - preparing myself, physically, mentally,
making my 'pilgrimage' down the motorway, through the hills -
and always different!
I hope for you that it can do what you need.
You're thinking very wisely Debbie, it takes a lot of time for each to understand the other's needs and limits -
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LOL, thanks Tree, but it wasn't quite that bad.
Thanks, me too. There are so many helpful people here for me to learn from!
I'm very glad that you found a relationship that works for you! I'm at the stage now where I'm doing a lot of investigating, and a lot of learning. First to discover what I truly want, and then to find someone who can give me that. I'm OK for now, but the one thing that I do know for sure is that I want MORE. Thanks for your input!You're thinking very wisely Debbie, it takes a lot of time for each to understand the other's needs and limits -
and even to really understand themselves (CruxForums has been a great help to me in that
After what's probably the usual series of more or less disastrous relationships,
I've found one which works for me, and for Him -
obviously not as close and intimate as being together all the time,
but the thrill of our (relatively) brief encounters, and looking forward to next time,
makes up for that and lets us lead our parallel lives reasonably contentedly.
Sort of like Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele? Just kidding. No, I don't think that is the problem. I think the problem is that I want to get more into the lifestyle than my partner does, or at least that is the way it looks to me. If that is the case, then my current relationship isn't going to work out, and I'll be seeking something else.
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Hmmm, this might end up sounding so that it might be taken a bit wrong, but... (assuming there aren't other reasons that the relationship is fragile, in which case ignore all...)
... that does't sound like 'relationship isn't going to work out...'?
That's very true ... but it doesn't always mean you've got the experienced Master who slowly extends the sub's limits until 'she will do everything'. It can be just as much a journey together, push and pull, and sometimes at one point in that journey the one taking the 'bottom' role is a step further.
