Importance and Attention

[JustJJ]

As someone who loves to be the victim in my fantasy and play, I often wonder about how much attention I get. To explain better what I mean: in a story about being crucified, I want to be a high-profile figure, not just an ordinary person who is caught up in the middle of things they had nothing to do with. At the same time, I have really enjoyed some stories here about ordinary people who are crucified just because they were enslaved or their town was raided. Also, in my BDSM life, I really like it when I have the undivided attention of the person tormenting me. It is very difficult to be left alone, or ignored, or to be alongside other prisoners or victims. This is why I would like to be crucified alone, not with others.

I don’t know if this makes sense but how do you all feel? Is it more degrading and humiliating to be ignored as a victim? How do these preferences change the way we get treated? If my tormenters know what I hate, will they ignore me even more?

 

[thehangingtree]

As someone who loves to be the victim in my fantasy and play, I often wonder about how much attention I get. To explain better what I mean: in a story about being crucified, I want to be a high-profile figure, not just an ordinary person who is caught up in the middle of things they had nothing to do with. At the same time, I have really enjoyed some stories here about ordinary people who are crucified just because they were enslaved or their town was raided. Also, in my BDSM life, I really like it when I have the undivided attention of the person tormenting me. It is very difficult to be left alone, or ignored, or to be alongside other prisoners or victims. This is why I would like to be crucified alone, not with others.

I don’t know if this makes sense but how do you all feel? Is it more degrading and humiliating to be ignored as a victim? How do these preferences change the way we get treated? If my tormenters know what I hate, will they ignore me even more?

You mean like a noble woman caught sending state secrets to the kingdom's enemy? You would be dragged naked to the square where the king's soldiers rape you in front of your home.

Even the high cleric Wragg approves of your defilement.

People you considered friends gather around the cross you are nailed to and shout their approval to the the state's execution of your vile body.



...something like that???

 

[Loxuru]

As someone who loves to be the victim in my fantasy and play, I often wonder about how much attention I get. To explain better what I mean: in a story about being crucified, I want to be a high-profile figure, not just an ordinary person who is caught up in the middle of things they had nothing to do with. At the same time, I have really enjoyed some stories here about ordinary people who are crucified just because they were enslaved or their town was raided. Also, in my BDSM life, I really like it when I have the undivided attention of the person tormenting me. It is very difficult to be left alone, or ignored, or to be alongside other prisoners or victims. This is why I would like to be crucified alone, not with others.

I don’t know if this makes sense but how do you all feel? Is it more degrading and humiliating to be ignored as a victim? How do these preferences change the way we get treated? If my tormenters know what I hate, will they ignore me even more?

Regardless of your former social profile, your crucifixion will be your hour of fame!

 

[JustJJ]

You mean like a noble woman caught sending state secrets to the kingdom's enemy? You would be dragged naked to the square where the king's soldiers rape you in front of your home.
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Even the high cleric Wragg approves of your defilement.
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People you considered friends gather around the cross you are nailed to and shout their approval to the the state's execution of your vile body.
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...something like that???

Yes, exactly!

 

[SirMGBZ]

As someone who loves to be the victim in my fantasy and play, I often wonder about how much attention I get. To explain better what I mean: in a story about being crucified, I want to be a high-profile figure, not just an ordinary person who is caught up in the middle of things they had nothing to do with. At the same time, I have really enjoyed some stories here about ordinary people who are crucified just because they were enslaved or their town was raided. Also, in my BDSM life, I really like it when I have the undivided attention of the person tormenting me. It is very difficult to be left alone, or ignored, or to be alongside other prisoners or victims. This is why I would like to be crucified alone, not with others.

I don’t know if this makes sense but how do you all feel? Is it more degrading and humiliating to be ignored as a victim? How do these preferences change the way we get treated? If my tormenters know what I hate, will they ignore me even more?

You raise an interesting point. Speaking as someone who is 100% dominant and sadistic, I can't answer for the victim side of things.

That being said, as a rule, whoever I am playing with is, by definition, the center of my attention. However, After, for example, putting her into some predicament bondage, or something like that, there is something weirdly erotic about ignoring her for a time, as if to say, "Your suffering is less important than whatever I am doing instead of watching you."

But that depends on the kind of relationship she and I have. If she has a humiliation kink, that might set her off like a rocket. But were it you and I, then it would depend. If I wanted to be sadistic, and reinforce the power dynamic, I might leave you and go elsewhere. But equally, I might decide to give you the attention you enjoy.

I know that doesn't really help, but you ask a question where the answer is the same as Tolkien wrote, when he said, "Go not to the Elves for counsel for they will answer both no and yes."

 

[JustJJ]

You raise an interesting point. Speaking as someone who is 100% dominant and sadistic, I can't answer for the victim side of things.

That being said, as a rule, whoever I am playing with is, by definition, the center of my attention. However, After, for example, putting her into some predicament bondage, or something like that, there is something weirdly erotic about ignoring her for a time, as if to say, "Your suffering is less important than whatever I am doing instead of watching you."

But that depends on the kind of relationship she and I have. If she has a humiliation kink, that might set her off like a rocket. But were it you and I, then it would depend. If I wanted to be sadistic, and reinforce the power dynamic, I might leave you and go elsewhere. But equally, I might decide to give you the attention you enjoy.

I know that doesn't really help, but you ask a question where the answer is the same as Tolkien wrote, when he said, "Go not to the Elves for counsel for they will answer both no and yes."

I agree, it’s not really a question to take only one side on. It’s more like a question about playing with each other on a psychological level!