Tricia
Governor
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Joker14
Magistrate
Can I possibly ask a question Jackie? I find fetishes and the ideas behind them very fascinating. I don't quite understand the the attraction to spanking. I understand that it is very popular in regards to discipline and dominance, but to me it just makes me think of being hit by my mum ( very much not arousing) or my partner being hit by her dad/ me being my partners dad (also very un arousing). I would really appreciate an explanation to this fetish pleaseWhen I was still quite young (20, I think) I mentioned to a rather new boyfriend that I was interested in being tied up for sex, and he was like "What the fuck???" I should have known he just wasn't the type, but his reaction kept me from revealing my bdsm interests to anyone else for several years. Then one night while dating the man who would become my husband, I made him watch the movie Cat People with me. He had never seen it, but the bondage scene in it had had a major impact on me years before. I just had a good feeling about this guy. So when the bondage scene happened, I blurted out "this is so hot!". His response: "Oh fuck yes!"
And so we went from there. We don't share all the same kinks (he's not into crux), but he loves spanking me and I love being spanked. Happily married for 14 years now. I'm a lucky girl and he's a lucky guy.
.Ps I did not mean to be rude in anyway. Each to their own I am just fascinated to learn!
Jackie1111
Tribune
Can I possibly ask a question Jackie? I find fetishes and the ideas behind them very fascinating. I don't quite understand the the attraction to spanking. I understand that it is very popular in regards to discipline and dominance, but to me it just makes me think of being hit by my mum ( very much not arousing) or my partner being hit by her dad/ me being my partners dad (also very un arousing). I would really appreciate an explanation to this fetish please
Ps I did not mean to be rude in anyway. Each to their own I am just fascinated to learn!
Hey Joker,
Well, there are many people who could articulate it better than me...and have done so. There are lots of books, blogs, and such devoted to it. But like most bdsm fantasies, for the sub a lot of it has to do with humiliation. More specifically, the humiliation of being punished. Having one's skirt pushed up, one's panties pulled down, and then spanked on one's bottom cheeks is very humiliating...especially within a fantasy or role play that one is engaged with. The fantasy of being a school girl who has broken some rule, and thus has been instructed to report to the principal's office for punishment is a classic fantasy for many into spanking. Another is a spanking received as part of a sorority initiation. There are an endless variety of these fantasies, of course. Some people, when being spanked, like to fantasize about exactly what you mentioned - being spanked by a parent or a family member (though personally, that fantasy does nothing for me).
And the physical, stinging, sensations from a spanking -whether it's done by hand, a paddle, or a cane - while painful (subs vary in just how painful they like it to be), combine with the humiliation in such a way that makes for an incredibly arousing experience. Why I find this so arousing I really can't explain....I just do. Why do I also find fantasies of being nailed to a cross and left to die so arousing? No idea. But the sexual arousal I get from fantasizing about crucifixion ultimately stems from the same elements that arouse me about spanking: the humiliation of punishment and the physical suffering of pain. The simple anticipation of these things can be incredibly arousing as well.
Does that make any sense? I've never actually tried to explain this before.
windar
Teller of Tales
Hey Joker,
Well, there are many people who could articulate it better than me...and have done so. There are lots of books, blogs, and such devoted to it. But like most bdsm fantasies, for the sub a lot of it has to do with humiliation. More specifically, the humiliation of being punished. Having one's skirt pushed up, one's panties pulled down, and then spanked on one's bottom cheeks is very humiliating...especially within a fantasy or role play that one is engaged with. The fantasy of being a school girl who has broken some rule, and thus has been instructed to report to the principal's office for punishment is a classic fantasy for many into spanking. Another is a spanking received as part of a sorority initiation. There are an endless variety of these fantasies, of course. Some people, when being spanked, like to fantasize about exactly what you mentioned - being spanked by a parent or a family member (though personally, that fantasy does nothing for me).
And the physical, stinging, sensations from a spanking -whether it's done by hand, a paddle, or a cane - while painful (subs vary in just how painful they like it to be), combine with the humiliation in such a way that makes for an incredibly arousing experience. Why I find this so arousing I really can't explain....I just do. Why do I also find fantasies of being nailed to a cross and left to die so arousing? No idea. But the sexual arousal I get from fantasizing about crucifixion ultimately stems from the same elements that arouse me about spanking: the humiliation of punishment and the physical suffering of pain. The simple anticipation of these things can be incredibly arousing as well.
Does that make any sense? I've never actually tried to explain this before.
That all makes a lot of sense to me.
Joker14
Magistrate
I totally agree with the whole humilation and punishment thing it's the same reasons I'm into bdsm, torture, punishment execution and trials, the whole experience is just tantalising and naughty. Being judged being used being the focal point of someone or some people's wrath when it is or isn't your fault.Hey Joker,
Well, there are many people who could articulate it better than me...and have done so. There are lots of books, blogs, and such devoted to it. But like most bdsm fantasies, for the sub a lot of it has to do with humiliation. More specifically, the humiliation of being punished. Having one's skirt pushed up, one's panties pulled down, and then spanked on one's bottom cheeks is very humiliating...especially within a fantasy or role play that one is engaged with. The fantasy of being a school girl who has broken some rule, and thus has been instructed to report to the principal's office for punishment is a classic fantasy for many into spanking. Another is a spanking received as part of a sorority initiation. There are an endless variety of these fantasies, of course. Some people, when being spanked, like to fantasize about exactly what you mentioned - being spanked by a parent or a family member (though personally, that fantasy does nothing for me).
And the physical, stinging, sensations from a spanking -whether it's done by hand, a paddle, or a cane - while painful (subs vary in just how painful they like it to be), combine with the humiliation in such a way that makes for an incredibly arousing experience. Why I find this so arousing I really can't explain....I just do. Why do I also find fantasies of being nailed to a cross and left to die so arousing? No idea. But the sexual arousal I get from fantasizing about crucifixion ultimately stems from the same elements that arouse me about spanking: the humiliation of punishment and the physical suffering of pain. The simple anticipation of these things can be incredibly arousing as well.
Does that make any sense? I've never actually tried to explain this before.
But spanking just reminds me so much of parents and parents ain't sexy lol ( in my opinion anyway).
Thank you very much for the explanation. It does make a little more sense now
I wonder if not being spanked as a child gets you into it? Or maybe vice versa?
it makes very good sense to me Jackie -
see my story about myself, 'Girly Games'
http://www.cruxforums.com/xf/threads/poll-were-you-raised-catholic.37/page-5#post-16060
wulf
God-Emperor
I also loved that movie. Natasia Kinski was perfect for the catwoman role.When I was still quite young (20, I think) I mentioned to a rather new boyfriend that I was interested in being tied up for sex, and he was like "What the fuck???" I should have known he just wasn't the type, but his reaction kept me from revealing my bdsm interests to anyone else for several years. Then one night while dating the man who would become my husband, I made him watch the movie Cat People with me. He had never seen it, but the bondage scene in it had had a major impact on me years before. I just had a good feeling about this guy. So when the bondage scene happened, I blurted out "this is so hot!". His response: "Oh fuck yes!"
And so we went from there. We don't share all the same kinks (he's not into crux), but he loves spanking me and I love being spanked. Happily married for 14 years now. I'm a lucky girl and he's a lucky guy.
It was one of the first movies I recorded on vhs tape. To bad I no longer have it.