Responding to a question about the selling of slaves got me thinking. Not so much about the selling but about the owning.
Dominants: what type of relationship would you prefer to have with your submissive? What are things you would demand in a relationship? What would definitely need to be in the agreement? What would be dealbreakers when refused – what is the minimum you would expect in other words?
Submissives: what type of relationship would you prefer to have with your Dominant? What are things you would expect in a relationship? What would definitely need to be in the agreement? What would be dealbreakers when demanded – what are your limits in other words?
Let me explain what I mean a little further:
No matter the type of the BDSM-relationship you may have it’s also just still a relationship. I love my Mistress and she loves me. We do the same things most other couples do. It’s just that we undoubtedly have way more sex than average, our sex life is considerably more kinky than average and a lot more people are involved in our sex life than average. We still celebrate the same type of milestones and binge series together like everyone else. Just in our case I might be naked and in bondage with a dildo or a plug up my pussy or ass while binging.
Our relationship is TPE. So theoretically there aren’t supposed to be any rules. In reality of course there always are. Mistress is bound to take care of me and to guard over my safety and physical and mental well being. I am bound to serve her faithfully and loyally to the best of my ability and to obey her commands immediately and without question.
We have an agreement covering all of our relationship. It’s quite detailed. The detail is for her protection. So that it can be proven I wanted all this in case something ever goes wrong during a session. It details tortures and instruments that can be used, toys, clothing, sexual use, sexual autonomy, my right to orgasm or absence of that right, safe words, etc. It even lists a number of body mods including surgical ones I have already consented to so Mistress can have them done without warning or asking. Mods nit listed I need to agree to. It only lists 4 taboos: pee, scat, vomit and insects.
This is necessary if you want a working relationship between Dominant and submissive. A Dominant has to accept and want responsibility over their slave and the slave hast to freely and totally submit. There are no other forces or obligations in play after all legal or otherwise.
If all this left you with burning questions for me about details concerning my relationship with my Mistress feel free to ask but please do answer my question. I'm curious.
