Me not, so good when all who were tell me about their experiences. Would be interesting to look for the female/male ratio.
There are certainly no biological females in this forum; see Fetlife for comparison. Women usually complain about men which are entirely focussed on their kink; one of my girlfriends who plays in BDSM scene said that she often feels like "potential wish fulfiller" / "object" etc. when reading unsolicited personal messages from men which seemingly have missed to learn of social interaction ("saying 'hallo' etc.) due to lack of practice. Some have become so-called "Incels", unwilling to reflect the reason for their lack of interaction with females (which is often due to complete focus on sex, kink etc. in certain social media platforms).
When I went to a famous fetish/BDSM party in Hamburg ("Catonium") with two girls from my network and put one of them onto a stretch bench in the largest play room, there had been a crowd of jostling guys almost instantly, many of which wearing masks to hide their faces(!), some with beer glasses ...to lurk what was going to happen. That wall of excited guys came close... very close. We felt uncomfortable and left the play room.
That is the way females (with BDSM kink and interest in crux play) feel in social media - and many find that disgusting.
On Fetlife, serious females and males have got references in their profiles (and I do not mean circular ones, sometimes set up by faking guys to live our their online role play phantasies or whatever), and they certainly do not wish to be overrun by guys with blue balls and urgent needs. Serious females and males have got common photos in their profiles (no stolen pictures, no nonsense), and they are open to meet people (people - not sex-/kink-focussed beings).
In December I have put a (serious!) compliment underneath a photo of a beautiful lady on Fetlife. Two one-liners later, she accepted my invitation for mulled wine on Xmas market. We exchanged phone numbers, had a quick call to agree the meeting point, had our introduction meeting (and TWO wines, and much friendly laughing!), and now she joins my friends' and my next S/M needling session. She's interested in crux play... but we'll see. First of all she is a beautiful and intelligent woman to me.
Life can be so simple, if not drifting into "the Matrix". The Matrix was supposed to be dystopia; however, it seems that a growing number of people (males!) start preferring virtual "life" over real one.
Last but not least, I did find real contact and crux play with a very nice m/f couple through this forum (my avatar shows me with her though I also crucified her and her husband together). All it took was a few personal messages, phone call and a three hour flight. Had wonderful days together.