You say that you need leads, not advice. I cannot give you any leads, so the only thing that I can give you is advice. As far as I know, there is no magic pill. Meeting women for kinky fun is just like meeting women for vanilla fun. You have to go out there and get good at flirting and connecting with women. Or you could do dating apps, but I have no success from those so I have no advice to give in that direction. One thing I will say is that for you as a man, things might be a lot better than you might think. It might be your thoughts about reality holding you back. Don't get me wrong, if you are severely physically unattractive, like if you are really really short or really fat or something, it's obviously harder. Success in finding women is. roughly speaking, about your raw physical attractiveness multiplied by your mental skill at turning women on multiplied by how often you are in situations where you meet women. If you're average-looking then the only thing holding you back is mental.
I'm an average-height guy with a boring career. I have an above-average face I'd say, but I'm no male model. I'm not fat, but I have a bit of a belly because of drinking, age, and lack of exercise. Despite that, I've had amazing sex with three women in the last month. Women are remarkably forgiving about these kinds of things, they're not as sexually dominated by the visual sense as men are. By the way, any women reading this, please correct me if I'm wrong about that
! That's just my impression based on my experience as a man.
Women feel a greater need for safety in a sexual interaction than men do because men are physically much stronger on average and they also commit like 90% of all violent crime. If you can connect with a woman in a way that makes her feel that she is safe around you, and you can turn her on mentally, you are golden. Safety is not just physical, by the way. It is also important to be discreet. Women should feel that no matter what happens between you and her, you will not go blabbing about it to other people.
As a man who wants to have kinky fun with women, you should probably give women the sense that you are safe to be around, you are discreet, she has zero to lose by having some good times with you and a lot of things to win from it. Obviously, many women fuck genuinely dangerous guys who turn them on. But if you're fundamentally a nice guy and not a sociopath, don't try to copy those guys too much. I would say, don't so much try to change your fundamental personality, instead focus on unlocking the raw sexual power of your fundamental personality. If you're a nice guy like I am, then your advantages are that you can be genuinely intimate with women and not a dipshit. Many women really enjoy being with a nice, intimate guy who treats them rough in bed with both people's full consent and permission. When I say nice, I don't mean some doormat, I mean a guy who genuinely wants the best for others but is strong and not a push-over.
There is no magic pill other than being a celebrity rock star type of person who just has to show up at a place and women throw themselves at him. Women are people, and a lot of them want some good kinky fun. They're out there. There's no magic charisma potion, no secret formula. Well, other than being a celebrity, but if you're not a celebrity you can still get laid a lot and have some amazing times. You have to just go out and talk to women. If you're not already, learn to be sexually unabashed in conversations. Not as in, talking about kinky sex five seconds after you meet a woman, although some would go for that, but more that you should be totally unashamed about your kinks and feel free discussing them if the conversation goes in that direction or you bring it in that direction. Be a sexual being in public, do not hide all of your desires behind some wall. Most women are more open to talking about sex than the average guy is. Doesn't mean you should start a conversation by talking about sex, but my point is that women aren't some gentle naive creatures who need to be coaxed into being interested in sex. Women are tough in a lot of ways and many of them are horny as fuck. Go make them happy.
