It's a complicated matter. The paterfamilias was not only head of his nuclear family - wife, kids, adopted kids, and slaves, but also of an extended family, where his patria potestas, powers (and responsibilities and liabilities) were more like those of a clan chief. He certainly had power of life and death over his own children (including deciding when they were born whether or not to acknowledge them as his own), and that lasted as long as he lived, not just while they were juveniles - and extended to the wives of his sons, his daughters-in-law. As I read it, he may not have had power of life and death over his own wife - while his father (or grandfather etc.) was alive and serving as paterfamilias, if the woman misbehaved, it would have been the latter who dealt with her. Once her own husband became paterfamilias, he could certainly divorce her, but not, I think, execute her. As to corporal and other punishments, a father could certainly inflict them on his children and slaves, but, again, if he wanted his wife whipped, if he wasn't paterfamilias, he'd have to refer the case to his father, or whoever else was, and the paterfamilias had to hold a family meeting and deal with the matter in a formal, public way. If I've understood this right, it's pretty similar to the laws the still apply (at least by tradition, notwithstanding national jurisdictions, UN Declarations etc.) in those many parts of the world where marriageable daughters and young wives are under constant threat of 'honour killings'.